Reasons why you can't orgasm, and their solutions

You are not broken. You are probably just missing information nobody gave you.

Around one in ten women has never had an orgasm. Between a third and a half struggle with it at some point. And roughly seventy to eighty percent do not reliably climax from penetration alone, no matter how good the sex or how attracted they are. That last number is why so many women quietly assume something is wrong with them.

The Big O is a practical, judgement free guide that takes the problem apart properly.

Inside you get:

• How arousal physically works, and the accelerator and brake model that explains why trying harder makes it worse

• The anatomy most women were never taught, including why direct clitoral contact feels wrong for some people and what to do instead

• Eighteen causes grouped into mind and emotion, body and health, and technique and partner, each with a specific fix rather than vague advice

• The five moves that work, distilled onto a single page

• Word for word scripts for telling your partner what you need without the conversation turning into a fight

• A 21 day solo practice plan you can follow at your own pace

• A clear list of when to stop self helping and see a doctor, physiotherapist or therapist

• Answers to the questions people are afraid to ask, including whether it is too late and what to do if you have been faking